If you grew up in a family where there was encouragement and   acknowledgment for who you were rather than what you did, most likely you have a fairly healthy sense of self-esteem. However, if  abusive actions or demeaning comments occurred, you probably developed negative beliefs about yourself.

When you identify the underlying beliefs through processes of emotional healing, you will be freer to develop a healthier self-concept.  Patterns of workaholism, an excessive drive to perform, or a strong desire to please others often fade, as you gain a stronger sense of your own self-value.